here are three things we want to say about marriage and friendship:
one. your spouse can be your best friend, like we said before, there has to be a level of friendship in every marriage, the problem occurs when replace your actual best friend for your spouse. you need friends, even when you’re married. sure, your spouse will be your best friend in the sense that you tell them everything first, but don’t replace your actual best friend with your spouse. don’t trade them.
two. your spouse is more than a best friend. that’s the problem we have with calling your spouse your best friend. it takes away from everything else they are. they’re your lover. they’re your companion. they’re way more than a best friend. they’re a spouse, a husband or wife. the term best friend is what we don’t like because we feel it devalues how much more he or she is to you.
three. don’t treat your spouse like you treat your best friend. they need to be treated better, as more than a best friend, not the same way you treat your best friend. that was the point behind saying “your wife is not one of the boys. and ladies, your husband doesn’t wanna be one of the girls. your best friend can change, your spouse shouldn’t.”
has your best friend changed since childhood? mine has. things change and we change who our friends are, but we should never change who our spouse is. marriage is a covenant not a contract.
hope that clears things up and we apologize to those who were offended by the way the last post was written.